BDSM lifestyle discussions

Although my specialties include cruel and unusual punishment, I do seem to draw real lifestyle boys to my phone lines. This week I’ve had several callers come to me for advice on how to find what they fantasize about, in reality. I’m always pleased to find that a submissive male has accepted his role, and is self aware enough to actually be able to admit that his core ‘need’ is to serve and worship a Dominant woman.

Probably the most common call revolving around this sort of lifestyle discussion is from a submissive male in a happy or at least functional marriage. Most times, the wife has no idea that her husband has the submissive need to serve her, or that he craves to sacrifice his own needs and pleasure for hers. This, to me, is a sad, and unfortunate reality for too many submissive men, and I hate to hear that there are so many women out there that are unaware of the absolute power they could so easily have over their men.

On the flip side, there are submissive males that have tried to introduce the concept of D/s to their wives, but the wife has little to no interest in indulging their husbands kink. In most cases, this is the core reason these boys call Me, and also usually visit Pro Dommes. What would wifey think? Is he ‘cheating’ if he’s offered himself to you, and you’ve refused his devotion? Turning down an offer of Power Exchange could be the result of either a strict religious upbringing, or something much deeper.

I had a few calls this week with a recurrent theme… submissive males that are not able to convince their wives to indulge, or experiment with taking on the Dominant role. Usually, after asking a few basic quesions, I find that through my own lifestyle experiences, these wives in most cases have very submissive tendencies themselves. This is a more common occurance than you might think, and it leads to many interesting conversations and theories of mine.

I refuse to list all my philosophies here in a public journal, because well, let’s be honest here… why should I share My ‘enlightenment’ here, for free, when there are many quality submissives willing to pay to hear my words? lol I will however admit that the submissive couple situation is one in which I’ve grown to take much pleasure in, both on the fantasy phone domination roleplay level, as well as the humiliation of a sissy cuckold level.

Having been the Dominant woman controling a male/female submissive couple has actually been something that I’ve enjoyed personally, so talking to people in this situation is something I take much pleasure in. I’ve spoken to submissive males in turmoil because they don’t understand why their wives don’t want to Dominate them, and I’ve spoken to wives that want help in understanding why their husbands have this need… they want to know what’s expected of them, and how to handle their submissive husbands needs.

It’s a very interesting dynamic, actually. Consider this; a submissive takes the greatest pleasure out of providing pleasure, even at the cost and sacrifice of their own basic sexual needs. Now, consider a situation where each partner wants nothing more than to do whatever it is that will provide pleasure for their partner. Would this not dictate that a submissive male voicing a desire for his submissive wife to dominate him… well, if her true desire is to please him at any cost, shouldn’t she be jumping at the opportunity?

Heh. Intricate, isn’t it? I find that usually, it’s a lack of, or simply poor quality communication between the submissive partners that leads to this frustration. Talking about how to present the dynamics of D/s to your partner in what may prove to be a less ‘taboo’ or more ‘acceptable’ way is something I’ve found very enjoyable.

I always look forward to hearing how the plans I help these subs make turn out.

Then of course, there’s the evil torment of such submissives, male and female, that really gets me excited, and oh so ready for the next caller that wants to roleplay such a situation. This is when My personal tastes, and wicked ways really get to be used… this may also be a reason that so many find My calls to be rather intense. LOL

Call. Don’t wank to My words. I’ll be available as much as possible simply because I have so many new and wicked thoughts and experiences to share to torment you boys with LOL. NiteFlirt, the system I use to process My calls has been experiencing a rather high volume lately, so if you have trouble getting through to Me, do try again. It almost seems as though they’re sometimes giving you a second chance to decide if you’re really ready for the intense BDSM experience you’ll receive when you call Lady Evil. LOL

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